"Orgasmic" - we’ve all heard someone say it about a warm, melty double chocolate chip cookie fresh out of the oven, right? That perfect mix of chewy and crunchy? Heaven. Bliss. Life-changing. And don’t get me wrong, I’d absolutely demolish that cookie without hesitation. But let’s be honest… as amazing as that cookie is, it still doesn’t come close to the real deal.
Because as wild as it sounds, nothing, and I mean nothing, beats an actual orgasm. True story.
So, What Actually Is an Orgasm?
What even is an orgasm, I hear you ask (ok not literally hear, but go with me here)? And why does it feel so damn good?
Which is a pretty fair question, especially if you’re someone who’s unsure whether you’ve had one, or just feeling a bit confused about what the fuss is all about. Honestly, if no one’s explained it properly (and let’s be real, sex education in school was either non-existent or didn’t exactly go into the juicy details), how are you meant to know?
So, let’s break it down in plain terms…
An orgasm, aka the Big O, is basically the peak moment of sexual pleasure. It usually happens after your body’s been nicely teased and turned on through stimulation (clitoral, vaginal, nipple, mental... yes, even your brain is an erogenous zone, more on that later). It’s like your is body building and building this delicious pressure until... boom. Release.
What Does an Orgasm Actually Feel Like?
Trying to describe an orgasm is a bit like trying to explain colour to someone who’s never seen it. But I’ll give it a go. Imagine a wave of pleasure that builds up slowly and then suddenly comes over you in pulses. Your muscles tense up, and then suddenly they’re contracting rhythmically - particularly in your pelvic floor, your vagina, sometimes even your thighs, your bum, and your abs.
It’s involuntary. Your brain kind of switches off and your body just takes over in the best possible way. People often describe it as euphoric, blissful, and explosive…yes, explosive.
It can be short and intense or long and rolling. Sometimes it’s fireworks. Other times it’s a slow and simmering. And sometimes, it doesn’t happen at all - which is totally normal too.
Orgasms Aren’t One-Size-Fits-All
One of the biggest myths about orgasms is that they all look and feel the same. Spoiler alert: they absolutely don’t.
Everyone’s body is different, which means everyone’s orgasm experience can be wildly different too. Some women orgasm from clitoral stimulation (which is extremely common - around 70-80% of women need direct or indirect clit action to orgasm), while others enjoy vaginal orgasms, G-spot orgasms, nipple orgasms, blended orgasms (yes please), or even orgasms that don’t involve touch at all - like during dreams or through intense fantasy.
So if you’re sitting there thinking, “Hmm… I don’t think I’ve ever had one of those?”, you’re not alone. In fact, loads of women go through life unsure if they’ve experienced a “real” orgasm, especially since the way it’s shown in films is so ridiculously over-the-top (cue the loud moaning, the back-arching, and the immediate orgasm after 20 seconds of missionary…lol, ok).
The truth is, orgasms look different for everyone - and that’s completely okay.
Why Do Orgasms Feel So Damn Good?
Great question. Let’s bring in a tiny bit of science (but don’t worry, I’ll keep it kind of sexy).
When you’re turned on, your body goes into a sort of pleasure-building mode. Blood flows to your genitals, your nipples might get hard, your breathing speeds up, and your brain starts releasing delicious feel-good chemicals like dopamine, oxytocin, and endorphins. These are your body's natural painkillers and mood boosters, basically, your body’s saying, “Hey babe, let’s have some fun!”
When you finally reach orgasm, there’s a rush of all these chemicals at once. It’s like your nervous system lights up and your body takes this as permission to just, let go. Physically, emotionally, and mentally - it’s a release. That’s why so many people feel floaty or calm or even sleepy afterward.
(And yes, this is also why orgasms are great for stress relief, menstrual cramps, headaches, sleep, and generally lifting your mood. It’s like a natural high - and it’s free!)
Let’s Talk About Female Orgasms Specifically
Now, here’s the thing: women’s pleasure has been overlooked for far too long. Like, centuries too long. Historically, the female orgasm was either ignored or treated like a mystery (“the female body is so complex” – yes, and??), and that’s left a lot of women unsure about how their bodies work or even what they like.
But your pleasure matters. You deserve to feel good - not just emotionally, but sexually too.
So let’s break down the basics:
1. The Clitoris Is the MVP
The clitoris is so much more than just that little nub you see at the top of the vulva. It’s actually a massive internal structure with around 8,000 nerve endings (which, FYI, is double the number found in a penis). It’s there purely for pleasure. That’s its one and only job - how iconic is that?
Stimulation of the clit - whether through touch, toys, oral, or even pressure - is the most reliable route to orgasm for most women. And if you haven’t explored yours yet, girl, it’s time. Light circles, tapping, side-to-side, using lube - try different things and see what feels best. There’s no right or wrong way.
2. The G-Spot Exists (Sort Of)
The G-spot is a spongy area inside the vagina, a few inches in on the front wall. Some women love it. Others feel… meh. It’s not actually a separate organ, more like an extension of the clitoral network. When stimulated properly (often with a “come here” motion), it can produce a deeper, more internal kind of orgasm, sometimes even leading to squirting. Again, it’s different for everyone, and not liking G-spot stimulation doesn’t make you any less sexual or “normal”.
Read more: What is a G-Spot Vibrator?
3. Orgasms During Penetration
Despite what rom-coms might suggest, only around 20-25% of women orgasm from vaginal penetration alone. That’s it. So if you’re not one of them, you’re definitely not broken. It just means you might need a little (or a lot) of clit attention at the same time. This is where fingers, toys, or good communication with a partner come in. Honestly, the magic is in the multitasking.
4. Mental Stimulation Is Powerful
Sometimes the brain is the biggest sex organ of all. If you’ve ever had a particularly steamy dream and woken up feeling, ahem, satisfied, you’ll know what I mean. Fantasy, sexting, reading erotic stories, all of this can help build arousal and even lead to orgasm without any physical touch. Your brain is a goddess, don’t underestimate her.
Orgasms and Self-Discovery
Let’s be real - figuring out what turns you on can take time. And that’s totally okay. Some people discover it young, others not until they’re in their 30s, 40s, or beyond. There’s no deadline, no ticking clock, no “should have figured it out by now.”
One of the best ways to learn? Masturbation. Yup, the big M. It’s a completely normal, healthy, and empowering way to connect with your body. Whether you’re using your fingers, a dildo, a wand, or a colourful unicorn-shaped vibrator (hi, Unihorn fans!), the important thing is to explore without pressure. This is your time. You’re the star.
If you’re feeling disconnected from your pleasure or struggling to orgasm, know that you’re not alone. Sometimes it’s mental blocks, stress, shame, trauma, or just not enough time or focus. Sometimes you’re just not into the person (it happens). And sometimes, you’re tired and want a nap instead. All of it is valid.
Orgasms Are Brilliant, But There's No “Right” Way to Have One
If there’s one thing to take away from this whole fluffy, slightly cheeky blog, it’s this:
Your pleasure matters.
Whether you’re having toe-curling orgasms every day or still figuring out where your clit is (zero judgment, babe), your body deserves to feel good. There’s no rulebook. No orgasm police. Just you, your desires, and a whole world of delicious possibilities…and toys.
So light a candle, put on some Beyoncé, grab your favourite Unihorn, and explore what feels amazing for you.
Because honestly? Cookies are great. But orgasms? They’re orgasmic.